It’s Your Relationship to Anger

It isn’t your anger that’s causing pain, it’s your relationship to your anger that's causing pain.

Anger is a natural and healthy emotion. It is a primal emotion that enables us to know our boundaries and to set them. However when we suppress the feeling of anger — particularly when a boundary has been crossed and left us feeling physically, emotionally, sexually, mentally or spiritually violated — it becomes rage. The kind of rage that when small unrelated incidents occur, explodes and continues to escalate by feeding on the uncontrollable nature of it's energy. This explosion of rage leaves us feeling rattled and ashamed, causing us to again suppress anger and continue the same cycle that turned healthy anger into unhealthy rage. 

The solution isn’t to suppress your anger. The solution is to build an honest relationship with the history of your anger and through understanding, rewire a healthy way to express anger in a way that doesn’t hurt you or those around you. 

Anger, when understood as a healthy and essential emotion, enables and empowers our entire life.